Have personality!

"Just because you have a personality that you have personality"

This quote from Tarantino after the classic "Pulp Fiction" put his finger on a popular social issue: "To have personality." If this expression is meaningless in itself, it has every day for people who use it. It is easy to rally to the fact that a colleague who "personality" is often difficult to live, but a friend who "did not" clearly uninteresting ...

What having personality?

Personality is, among other definitions, which are two people. It is said that if someone was able to act, think, to assert itself outside of what others are doing.

Indeed, theorists of personality, usually deeply divided, admit that it is essential to consider the internal causes (personality) and external (context) if we are to understand the behavior presented by an individual.

The responsibility of the personality and the situation in the event of a behavior is variable. We can not advance us on the exact role of these determinants.

And I assume to image the expression "to have personality," as a principle which determines the personality of the behavior that situation. In the same way that "lack of personality" reflects a predominant influence of the situation in the decision-making.

Request to have personality to trust his choices. Or how many times we ensure that they are good? Most of the time, we do not know, and we prefer the choice that puts us in the least difficulty. In short, a socially acceptable choice, which brings us back to the image we want to give.

Let us order it in a coffee shop. How many times have we heard without really meaning to "the same thing please?"

When will that "having personality" is valued?

To assert his personality is often at the expense of others. By saying we are encouraged to question their own way of being. They judge our behavior is positively and make it a model. Either they judge inappropriate, and they take the distance with us.

When the game is worth it:
- When you are in a dominant position on both your status: make sure your uniqueness and your confidence. But people naturally do in this situation.
- When you need to take a stand. Your credibility depends on end, and as long as you stay within your area of ​​expertise, even if you do not control everything, it is important that you make your point of view.
- When there are no issues promordiaux in the image you provide. Take advantage of these moments just "easy" to gain confidence in your position, to "test" your opinions.
- And most of all, in private moments, family and friends, where people interest you go for what you petes (and vice versa).

How to "have the personality" ... and take advantage?

Some anxious in the idea of ​​having to position themselves in an ambiguous context, others have to censor themselves to avoid a scandal ...

You are a natural said! You have the advantage to take your choice. But what about their questioning? Do not doubt it is a quality that is even more valid if you are able to understand others and their way of thinking.

You are a natural balancing! Start by assuming you are adaptable to almost anyone. But understand that you will gain credibility by allowing others to clearly identify who you are. This involves positioning yourself in the decision-making.

In conclusion

Have the personality begins by identifying what makes us unique, and to assume or to change to go in that direction ... Think about it when we have to choose: personality or situation?